How do you heal from the inside out?
Whether it’s stress, your sleep pattern, your self-confidence, your aching back or dry skin there are two steps you need to take to be able to heal from the inside out.
You see, deep lasting healing requires change.
Everyone resist change!
Unfortunately here comes the big challenge: Everyone resists change! Even people that enjoy change and actively seek it, like myself, resist change. It’s a survival mechanism. You know what got you here, so you hang onto those strategies for dear life. Certain parts of you know what works and they have no intention to budge!
Changing becomes much easier when you first accept where you’re at. And then forgive. Yourself
That might not be a walk in the park though. But the thing is if you don’t know what it is you’re going to change you can’t change it. Therefore the acceptance is mandatory.
Acceptance helps you understand where you’re coming from.
It’s like looking at a map having no idea where your starting point is, yet from there you’re still trying to navigate to your desired destination.
Usually, we talk about knowing where you’re going. “If you don’t know where you are going any road will take you there.”, as the famous quote of the Cheshire Cat in Alice’s goes.
However, if you know where you’re going but have no idea where you’re starting point is, most likely none of the roads will take you there.
Self-forgiveness makes it easier.
Number one is: Accept what is.
Two: Forgive yourself for how it has been.
You made choices you felt forced to take. Most likely very irrational but when you experience a great threat rational mind isn’t active. Instead, it freezes and everything moves into survival mode.
Rest within that insight. Now it becomes so much easier to allow change to happen.
When you fight against yourself and defend yourself from an imagined threat you can’t change. The idea of change only displays as a thought floating on top of your previous decisions and subconscious desires for safety.
Do you sincerely desire change? Now you know, to heal from the inside out, you need to accept your present belief system and forgive. Yourself.
Did this give food for thought?
Tell me below!
As the Serenity prayer states, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
Accept those things you cannot change! This is a huge step. No need to complain about the weather. Or to complain about the fact that a shop closed early when you tried to get there at the end of the day.
And like you said, if you find yourself beating yourself up, forgive yourself!
Thanks
I’m a healer and I completely agree with you! Fighting against yourself will only make things worse and guilt will stop you dead in your tracks because you won’t believe you deserve to heal. But also, most have us have had lots of help with developing limiting beliefs, and self-defeating choices and behavior. Those unhealed memories and unresolved losses need our attention, too, if we truly want healing that lasts. When I was being trained as a Healing Codes coach, I learned that those memories actually fuel the issues we develop later. They get stored alongside the meaning we made of the event & the feelings we had at the time.
I really enjoy reading what you write about healing from the inside and outside. By the way, I like “Acceptance”, I accept where I am coming from and I know who I am coming from. Thank you for sharing 🙂 #BlogBoost
Great post. Great reminder of what we all tend to block. Aceepting our faults and then overcoming them one step at a time.